If I’m Really Honest

Kristen Ulmer - Turning Fear Into Flow

In this episode, Jamin sits down with Kristen Ulmer, former extreme skier and author of The Art of Fear, to unpack why most of us are taught the wrong relationship with fear—and how that broken relationship fuels anxiety, sleeplessness, and emotional overwhelm. Kristen explains why resisting fear (“letting it go,” calming it down, distracting from it) actually creates anxiety, and why intimacy with fear leads to clarity, flow, and high performance.
Kristen Ulmer – https://www.kristenulmer.com
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Dr. James McGaugh - Memory and the Brain’s Hidden Systems

Dr. James L. McGaugh - a founder of modern memory science - joins me for an hour of deep exploration into how memory actually works. We talk about autobiographical memory, the puzzle of retrieval, why forgetting is both a feature and a mercy, and what makes Highly Superior Autobiographical Memory so different from anything else in neuroscience.
He explains why PTSD persists, why emotion strengthens memory chemically, why HSAM breaks expected rules, and what neuroscientists still don’t know about how the brain pulls information into consciousness. We finish with stories about his mentors, the most surprising obstacles from early experiments, and his lifelong love of jazz.
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Andrea Hiott - The Paradox of Love and Being Human

This episode dives into the paradox of being human - how we care, how we deny care, how we form meaning, and how love requires both vulnerability and courage. We discuss the embodied nature of mind (E-cognition), the tension between self-protection and connection, and the possibility of relating without collapsing into defensiveness or certainty.
https://www.andreahiott.com/
https://www.youtube.com/@waymaking23
https://communityphilosophy.substack.com/
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Dr. Stefanie Green - Dying On Your Own Terms

In this conversation with Dr. Stefanie Green, we explore medical assistance in dying (MAiD) through real stories, real families, and real ethical questions. Stefanie is a physician and clinical leader in the field of assisted dying in Canada, and the author of This Is Assisted Dying. This is not a debate. It’s a human conversation about autonomy, compassion, suffering, dignity, and how we care for one another at the end of life.
Website: https://www.stefaniegreen.com
Book: "This Is Assisted Dying" https://www.amazon.com/This-Assisted-Dying-Empowering-Patients/dp/1982129468
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Jamie Reed - Trans-kids Safety Advocate & Whistleblower

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, I sit down with Jamie Reed - a former case-manager at the Washington University Transgender Center in St. Louis - to explore her journey, the ethical and medical questions she raised, and what it means to reconsider deeply held beliefs about care, identity, and transformation. We dig into whistle-blowing, community backlash, the nature of belief, and how one can move from conviction to questioning.
Jamie Reed on X (Twitter): https://twitter.com/JamieWhistle
Article: “I Thought I Was Saving Trans Kids. Now I’m Blowing the Whistle.” (The Free Press) — https://www.thefp.com/p/i-thought-i-was-saving-trans-kids Blog post: https://ifimreallyhonest.great-site.net/2025/11/05/jamie-reed-trans-kids-safety-advocate-and-whistleblower/
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Dawn Maslar - The Science Behind Attraction & Long-Term Love

What exactly is love? And why does our brain completely change when we fall into it — only to change back again two years later? In this conversation, biologist Dawn Maslar explains the neuroscience, hormones, and evolutionary roots of attraction, bonding, commitment, and long-term connection. We break down everything from the fear-based origins of attraction to why “the spark” fades and what real love actually is.
Website – https://dawnmaslar.com
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Anthony Magnabosco - Street Epistemology

Anthony Magnabosco, the public face of Street Epistemology, joins Jamin Coller to discuss what it means to have conversations that don’t devolve into debates. They explore the evolution of SE, how it differs from traditional apologetics or argumentation, and how curiosity and grace can reshape how we talk about deeply held beliefs. They also discuss the role of personal experience, emotional reasoning, and the challenge of questioning our own certainty.
Links:Anthony’s links:
streetepistemology.com
navigatingbeliefs.com
YouTube.com/@magnabosco210
Twitter.com/magnabosco
RecoveringFromReligion.org
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Chris Germer - Self-Compassion

Dr. Chris Germer co-founder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion and co-author (with Kristin Neff) of Self-Compassion for Burnout — joins Jamin Coller for an honest conversation about radical acceptance and the “voice of love.” They discuss non-fixing as a teaching posture, why warmth matters as much as awareness, and how curiosity turns empathy into compassion.
Guest Links:ChrisGermer.com | Center for Mindful Self-Compassion | Self-Compassion.org
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Patrick Ryan – Ethics of Cult Deprogramming

In this thoughtful conversation, I sit down with Patrick Ryan, veteran cult intervention specialist and longtime practitioner in the field of coercive influence. We talk through the evolution of cult deprogramming, how belief systems shift, the tension between gentle engagement vs. confrontation, and why many people leave high-control groups on their own terms. He also shares insight into cultic dynamics, and best practices for helping loved ones without burning bridges.
Links & Resources:
Cult Mediation — https://cultmediation.com/
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Jim Rutt - God, Consciousness, and AI

What does it mean to be awake—as a human, or as a machine? In this wide-ranging conversation, Jamin Coller and Jim Rutt explore consciousness, religion, evolution, metaphysics, and whether AI can ever truly “wake up.”They unpack Game B, noble lies, mystical experience, and why the illusion of God might be as neurologically real as the love you feel for your child.
Guest links:*The Jim Rutt Show: https://www.jimruttshow.com*Jim Rutt on Substack: https://jimrutt.substack.com*Santa Fe Institute: https://www.santafe.edu*California Institute for Machine Consciousness: https://machineconsciousness.org
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